Sunday, December 30, 2007

"Atonement"

Bruce and I used my free movie passes to see "Atonement" today. I'd read the book a couple of years ago and discussed it at a book club at my local library.

The movie was excellent, and seemed very true to the book (although I don't remember everything now). Young Briony is quite full of herself, and full of romantic fantasies but no real understanding of love or sexuality. On one fateful day in 1935, she has her ego knocked about when her cousins don't want to take part in a play she has written. She witnesses an odd scene between her older sister Cecilia and Robbie, the bright young man who doesn't fit in, as he is the son of one of their servants. Later, she delivers a note to Cecelia that Robbie gives to her by mistake, and she reads it first. It's a highly erotic note but Briony misreads it and believes it proves Robbie is a sex maniac.

Cecelia, on the other hand, is turned on by it, and she and Robbie have a tryst in the library. Unfortunately, it is witnessed by Briony who now believes she has witnessed an attack. Later in the evening, when her twin cousins run away and everyone goes out to search, Briony sees her cousin being held down on the ground by a male attacker. She accuses Robbie, knowing it's not true, but sticking to her story when she's questioned.

Robbie goes to prison as a result of her testimony and ends up serving in World War 2 since he was offered a release in order to go into the army. The war scenes are nightmarish, especially the scene at Dunkirk, with drunken soldiers reeling every which way, wounded and crippled people, horses being shot to avoid them being taken by the enemy, and soldiers riding abandoned amusement rides.

Briony becomes a nurse like Cecelia and tries to do penance for the lie that haunts her. But she can't wash away the guilt no matter what she does. As a writer she envisions a somewhat happy ending, in which Robbie and Cecelia are married and happy together, but they will not forgive her; they insist that she write letters exonerating Robbie and apologizing for her perjury.

But in fact, as she states at the end, now an old lady with a fatal illness, that's not what happened at all. In fact, Robbie died at Dunkirk, and Cecelia died during a bombing six months later. They never saw each other again and never had a chance at the happiness they could have had if Briony had told the truth about the person who committed the assault.

I won't reveal that, though I've probably already revealed too much anyhow. This was a sad movie of three lives destroyed by a little girl's lie. For Briony's life was destroyed too, she was haunted by her guilt and never found a man of her own or had any family.

Why did she lie? Bruce asked me this when we were leaving the theater. I think it was a combination of things. She was a self-centered rich kid who was mighty put out that her brilliant play wasn't lapped up by her cousins (who were distraught over their parents' divorce). She had a crush on Robbie at one time, and probably was angry that he didn't return her affection. Plus, she just didn't understand erotic love, and completely misinterpreted what she saw between her sister and Robbie. And then there was the class issue. It was so much easier to throw the blame on a lower-class person, especially one who had been allowed to rise above his station. People were quite willing to believe that he would be the rapist and not the upper class person who actually was the attacker.

I liked this film a great deal and I recommend both the movie and the book.

Thursday, December 20, 2007

A Wedding in the Toilet

I just read a filler article in AMNY about a couple who are getting married in a restroom, where the bride will wear a gown fashioned out of toilet paper. The dress was designed by the winner of the 2007 Toilet Paper Wedding Dress Contest, sponsored by a website called Cheap-Chic-Weddings.com.

At least if the marriage doesn't work out, they've got an alternate use for the dress....

Sunday, December 16, 2007

Is "Happy Holidays" Too Politically Correct?

This afternoon, weather permitting, the Brooklyn Humanist Community is going to hold a discussion this afternoon about saying "Happy Holidays."

Apparently quite a lot of people find it insulting and annoying to hear "Happy Holidays" rather than "Merry Christmas." For the most part I have not heard many Jews complaining about this.
Personally, I generally just respond in kind. If a person wishes me Happy Holidays then that is my answer. If they say Happy Hanukah, so do I. If they wish me Merry Christmas, I answer the same. Who cares that I don't celebrate Christmas? It doesn't matter to me. If it is a sincere and friendly holiday greeting I could not care less how it is phrased or which holiday is mentioned.

While I can see why some people don't like "Happy Holidays" because it takes the Christmas out of Christmas, on the other hand there are times and places where it is better to be neutral and just say "Happy Holidays" to one and all.

I certainly wouldn't say "Happy Kwaanza" to every person of color I meet, because it's not fair to make the assumption that just because her skin is a certain shade, she must be celebrating this holiday. So why would I say "Merry Christmas" to everyone without wondering if someone is feeling left out?

On the other hand, as I said, if they wish me a Merry Christmas I will wish them the same.

Two incidents that recently happened on the subway I use most, the Q train, bring this whole issue into another focus.

First, one night during Hanukah, I was on the train with Bruce and Jason when two Hasidim got on the train. They were probably of the Lubavitcher sect that believes the Messiah will come when every Jew is observing all the rules and regulations of strict Orthodox Judaism. So, they proselytize among Jews (but not to non-Jews).

One of the men was going up and down the subway car, asking everyone if he or she was Jewish. If the response was positive, he would hand them a tiny box of some sort (I could not tell what it was..prayers for Hanukah, a set of candles? maybe) and tried to also give them a plastic container of doughnuts. On Hanukah it is customary to eat fried foods to remind oneself of the oil that miraculously lasted 8 days instead of only one.

When he came to me I ignored him and Jason did too. Bruce was sitting a distance away and was taking a nap on the way home. This crass fellow actually woke Bruce up to ask him if he was Jewish. Jason became quite indignant and was ready to have words with this man if he came back to him. The Hasid came back to me and asked again if I was Jewish, and I loudly said, "I don't want it!"

In an instance like this, making a distinction between those who celebrate Hanukah and those who don't, and then pushing their agenda on those who admitted to being Jewish, was quite offensive to me. I would have certainly preferred to hear, "Happy Holidays!"

In another incident also on the Q train that Friday night, the fourth night of Hanukah, a group of about 10 college-age kids got on the train and loudly wished everyone a Merry Christmas. A small group of maybe 2-4 Jewish kids around the same age responded, "Happy Hanukah!" Whereupon the Christmas celebrants set on the Jews and beat them up.

The one person who came to their defense was a Muslim. Now, there is someone who probably deserves the Nobel Peace Prize, and he has the two black eyes to show for it.

In the aftermath of this, it turns out that the Jewish fellow (who had his nose broken by the so-called Christians) invited his newfound Muslim friend to celebrate Hanukah with him.

The aggressors were found to be a bad lot, with web pages showing them playing with guns, and with a sheet already documenting other hate crimes. They are going to be prosecuted for a hate crime, which serves them right. As Mr. Potter said to George Bailey, "Merry Christmas to you -- in jail!"

Here again, supposing they'd come on and shouted "Merry Christmas," and the Jewish kids had said, "Happy Holidays!" Would there still have been a violent incident? Maybe, since these little cross-wearing hoodlums were obviously looking for trouble anyhow. But saying "Happy Holidays" might also have defused the whole thing.

Then again, maybe it's better to name the holiday (thereby naming your religion) and find out then and there who your friends and your enemies are.

If it warms up and the ice goes away by 11 AM, I will bring up these two stories during the discussion. If not, I've at least mentioned them here.

Silly Job Ads

Every day, I peruse Craigslist looking for possible job openings for Jason and for some of my friends who are looking for work. Once in a while I run across some very strange and funny advertisements!

Last week someone posted a job ad for an administrative assistant at a company where "one of the co-founders is a dog." Therefore, being a dog lover was part of the job description, but as the poster put it, "The final requirement for this job is that you not be allergic to the co-president."

One might also want to add that you shouldn't be terrified of the co-president. I suppose no cats need apply.

In another ad for a dog walking company, the final job requirement was that the applicant not be "an uptight weenie." Therefore, when revising Jason's cover letter, I added the sentence, "I solemnly swear I am not an uptight weenie."

Still, they haven't called. I wonder if they are afraid he can't cut the mustard.

I could probably start a separate blog lampooning the outrageous and sometimes hilarious demands bosses ask of their prospective employees. I'm sure it would make entertaining reading!

Friday, December 14, 2007

Article on "Holiday Gifts" to be Published

Another of my articles has been accepted for publication. This time, it's a semi-sardonic essay on holiday gift giving, tied in to the many toy recalls this year. The article will appear soon on www.yournews.com, under the 11229 zip code.

It would probably make Ebenezer Scrooge proud, because generally I don't favor expensive gifts! However I do favor gifts to charity, and old Ebenezer would not be pleased with that approach until after his series of mind-altering dreams. I favor gifts of memberships or magazine subscriptions, that you can enjoy all year long.

Anyway I do wish everyone a Happy Chanukah, Merry Christmas, Happy Kwanza and a Happy New Year. And do check out the website so you can see my thoughts on holiday gifts.